So if you've been on any natural hair website, forum, or even YouTube; you've probably heard terms like BSL or APL and wondered "what the heck are they talking about? And even if you're not into any of those social mediums, you've probably said or heard someone say "my hair is not growing" or "I can't wait for my hair to get that long!"
I know I've said it. And now I am hearing it from others. It's easy to look at someone else's hair and admire it for various reasons. Today I want to talk about what those reasons are. What goals are you trying to reach with your hair? This is a question I ask every client that walks through my door. Are you trying to grow hair, retain length, retain moisture, or just plain have healthy hair?
For me, I want to make sure that my hair is at its optimal level of health, prevent breakage and split ends, and see how long my hair can get for as long as i can stand all that hair. But the most important thing is healthy hair, which I believe I have attained. Now I've been tempted to color, straigthened, and cut into funky styles. But those things, while fun and cute, will take its toll on your hair. So I have refrained. And this is what I have to show for it.
Recently, I went to a salon to get my much needed ends trimmed. The stylist washed, blow-dried, and lightly flat-ironed my hair to get a good trim. Lightly means only taking one or two passes through the hair on a appropriate heat level. In the pics, my hair is already beginning to revert back, hence the frizz. And I don't do this every time I trim.
So four complete years of being natural, and this is the fruit of my labor. Not bad! In terms of growth, I believe I may be somewhere between armpit length and bra strap length. But I'm finding that is not as important to me anymore. The point of this post is to stress patience- a lot of people want to jump to these lengths after only a few months to a year of growing. And also to stress diligence in your regimen- if you have a goal, don't get side-tracked by what's hot right now. Don't get lazy in your hair care. It's not to say that you can't have fun with your hair. By all means, do! But know where you are going with this, and make that your focus. Healthy hair is my focus. It's why All Things Curly was created. What's yours?
Since it's not often that my hair is straight, I did not immediately wash my hair to get it back to curly. However, I can't work with hair that straight, and the frizz was beginning to take over anyway. So I decided to try 3 different styles with this hair. Below are the results.
Day 1- curled under
2nd Day- twist-out
3rd Day- Casual Friday! (still a twist-out)
Final day with this hair- Sunday! (A braid-out)
Even my stylist had to admit that I've been doing a good job taking care of my hair. (Side-note: you can do this! You don't have to run to the salon every week to wear natural hair.) Once I stop focusing on other people's hair, and did my best to take care of my own- no matter how bored I get sometimes- my hair became everything I could want it to be and more! It's not the hair I hoped I would have, but it's the hair I can't live without.
On my next post, i will explain how i achieved my healthy hair goals. And if you've followed this site for any length of time, you already know!
Until next time!